The Completion Series – Part II

Many people are fairly complete except for one thing. There is that one thing that is holding them back that they are simply resistant to do. This suggests that there are unconscious patterns that keep you from being in completion. Are you overcommitted? Over-committers want to do too much and, therefore, get very little done. Over-commitment is a self-sabotage move. We over-commit and then we go to bed every single night feeling incomplete. We have set ourselves up to feel like failures.

Are you a chronic procrastinator? Procrastinators don’t have to show up all the way! If you procrastinated writing a term-paper for school and then got a “C” on that paper, you can say it’s because you didn’t have enough time or that you put it off too long. By procrastinating, you gave yourself an unconscious excuse in case you didn’t do well. What if you went all-in and still only got a “C”? That idea may surprisingly scare you! Behind all of that procrastination of writing your paper, you probably spent endless hours with the thought of needing to work on that paper. Wasting time and energy thinking about doing it is a massive energy drain, it would take much less time to just do it and this energy drain reduces or depletes your impact.

Are you interested in a relationship that works? If you have 5 years worth of with-holding built up, how mad are you? With-holding takes up a ton of energy. You need to actually say what you want to say, don’t wait until “the appropriate time.” Say whatever it is as you feel it and get it out of the way.

Getting complete is not a moral issue. It is not about being good or bad. Living in a state of completion is an aliveness issue and an impact issue, as it gives you the ability to be effective.

Experts have followed Corporate Executives around for weeks and recognized certain trends as follows:

CEO’s have a 100% completion rate in their daily routines. No matter what came up during the day, the CEO’s gave the issue their full attention until the matter was complete. Then they moved on to the next thing.

Presidents (who are just one step down from the CEO) have an average of 5 incompletes in their daily routines.

Vice Presidents have an average of 14 incompletes in their daily routine.

The list goes on from there accordingly. Do you see the pattern?

This is because it took their efforts take more steps than the CEO because they split their attention instead of giving each situation their full attention. So, they were less effective and had less impact.

The more items that were left incomplete in their day, the less value they were providing to their company, and the lesser position they were granted. The less incompletes in the daily routine, the greater value they have to the company, and subsequently, the more money they were making.

People who are hanging out in incompletion are not having maximum impact. If you are spinning out of control, you must effectively complete what you start in order to have the energy to make a lasting impact.

The good news is that as you do complete things, you get huge energy releases. Think about the last time you completed a task that seemed daunting. Remember that giant exhale you took when you knew the task was actually complete? You freed up the energy you had stored away to actually complete that task. Now that source of energy is back within your body and you immediately feel better.

What are some of the reasons that we don’t complete? Are there any fears behind getting things complete?

Are you afraid of success? Will I lose my identity if this comes to completion?

Are you afraid of what may be coming up next once this item is complete? Are you in fear of the unknown that comes with completing something long overdue?

Could a part of your incompletion be a fear of accountability? (Such as, I’ve been working on this project for a long time and if I complete it and my boss isn’t happy with it, they will hold me accountable.) Your belief, therefore, may be that if I finish this I will be given additional responsibility and obligation.

How about the idea that if I don’t complete, then others won’t count on me to show up? Do you fail to complete because there is a great excuse that goes along with it? (“Honey, I would have been home on time but I was so busy working on that project!”) We use that busy to not show up and to hide out. That is a victim’s defense by the way. (I’m being held hostage by this project!) Is your failure to complete things possibly due to underlying guilt? (If I am accountable and my project doesn’t work, then I will feel guilty.)

Do I have a fear of being visible? If we are not hiding behind stuff that is not complete, then we are visible. What if people were focused on me rather than my project? If you are not able to complete, then expectations of you are lowered and you avoid additional responsibilities.

Have you ever had this underlying belief, “If I finished all of my projects and had time for myself, I would be selfish, and selfish is not a good thing,” or, “I would be bored and have nothing to do.”

How about this one, “I like it where I’m at…it is comfortable. What will be on the other side of this box if I move myself out of it?” This is a fear of the unknown.

Think about a time when you were so worried about something that you couldn’t sleep, or that you woke up in the night in a panic. That panic is undoubtedly about something that is not yet complete.

If you notice yourself feeling sleepy at the thought of all of this, it is because you are subconsciously dealing with completions in your brain. That is what the brain does. It searches for patterns. You are already beginning to feel the weight of what is going on. Notice your breathing and feelings. Get clear with them. There is a physical impact on your body. These are symptoms of the anxiety that being incomplete creates. So, if you are beginning to feel exhausted, physically move around the room, shake your body, flap your wings, clap your hands a little bit and bring your focus back to your list.

Look at your list of incompletion from today. How does it make you feel? Get a sense of this feeling because you are carrying it with you all of the time.

I knew of a case of a client who had Fibromyalgia and the person was full of incompletion issues. Their Life Coach helped them form a list of those incompletion items and as they cleaned up the messes, the pain left their body. We are not designed to be incomplete, we are designed to finish.

It all boils down to 3 things:

1. Fear of Aliveness. (How alive are we willing to be?)
2. Fear of Death. (If we complete that project, it is done…dead. We are scared of the open space that completion creates.)
3. Fear of Making an Impact. I invite you to ask yourself, “Where have I been the most afraid to make an impact?” “Where would I like to have an impact the most in my own life?”

The reason we don’t have an impact is only because we are afraid. We exaggerate the fear by creating a big story about how scary it is to do what we want to do. You let the story stop you. How does it feel to be helpless about making the impact that you want to make instead of just feeling the fear? Usually, that is just a fear that you have been afraid to feel. This can show up as withdrawing, avoidance, and paralyzing fear. We want something that we’ve never experienced before. What is between you and what you want is just something you haven’t felt yet.

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Crucial Items to Discover About the Water Cutters

The essence of water cutters is for cutting through various materials such as metals. You may, therefore, desire to learn more about how this tool works and how to use it effectively. One of the things you need to seek to understand is the waterjet cutting process. If you are considering using a waterjet, you should seek more info about the gains and the demerits. Continue reading below to see some of the advantages of using a water cutter.

The waterjet is strong enough to cut down a wide range of metals. You will discover that most tools can cut through only a single material, for instance, wood only. Therefore, why most workshops will have several cutting tools. With the waterjet cutter, you can use it for cutting different materials and metals.

For a smooth cut, you should prefer to use the waterjet cutter. Jagged cut is one of the demerits you will face when you choose alternative tools for cutting. Therefore, the waterjet is ideal when you desire a smooth, clean cut.

Being environmentally friendly is the other advantage of using a water jet. You need to learn more about the various way of protecting the environment. It is crucial to minimize the use of tools that makes a lot of noise or produces smoke that constitutes of poisonous gas. To keep the environment safe, you should, therefore, use to use the water cutters.

You will discover that the waterjet does not overheat even if you keep using it for the entire day continuously. One of the limitations that face most of the tools that are used for cutting metal parts is overheating. To overcome this challenge and ensure the smooth running of your work, you should prefer to use the water cutters.

Although the water cutters have many merits, you should know that these tools also have various disadvantages. Read more below to see some of these drawbacks.

If you need to cut a metal part partially, you should know that you cannot use a waterjet cutter. Therefore, you can only use this tool when you have to cut all the way through.

You also cannot use the waterjet cutter for cutting through a hole size that is smaller than 0.1 inches. Therefore, when facing such a hole size, you will have to learn more about alternative tools to use.

Therefore, you should examine the above things to learn when it is ideal to use the water cutter. The idea is to choose it for cutting through metals and leaving a smooth surface.

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An Insight To The Types Of Divorce That Exist.

Divorce is a process through which married couples decide to end their marriage. There are very many causes that might lead people or married couples to get divorced. Coming to the decision to have a divorce or to end a marriage is not an easy task as it requires a lot of thought and considerations and in addition to that the paperwork involved so as to make sure that the process is legally recognized by the law is also huge. If one is interested in getting a divorce, they need to consider all the types of divorce available in the market. This article will explain the different types of divorce that are not common to many people.

The first type of divorce and probably the most common type of divorce is the contested divorce. It is thought to be the most dramatic type of divorce. The two main things that people differ in most divorce cases are child custody as well as property division. Many divorce cases could be settled in lawyers offices only if the couples could mutually agree on how to share the property and who takes custody of children. They are expensive due to the long trials that happen before the cases are actually resolved.

They can be said to be the antonyms of contested cases. Couples easily come to terms with property division and child custody. The supervision of how the paperwork is done is the main job of the lawyers. In the case where there is no agreement, the case becomes a contested divorce.

Also known as the summary Divorce. Due to the fact that the couple have been together briefly, there is little, or no property acquired together hence making the sharing process easy or even absent. If the paperwork is done correctly the divorce can be granted in the shortest time possible. However, people should know the difference between internet divorce and simplified divorce, and the main difference is that internet divorce is often non-existent and a scam where a simplified divorce requires one to have actual paperwork and legalization from the court of law.
If a case is filed, and the other party does not respond then the case is settled as a default divorce. The other type of divorce is collaborative divorce, where lawyers are hired but unlike the contested divorce, the parties do not go to trial; instead the lawyers work on behalf of respective parties to come up with an agreement and then settle the case amicably.

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